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Acute depression precipitates a terrible tragedy...This is a wake-up call to the South Asian Community...

Apr 15, 2021

Over the first weekend this April, two brothers killed their father, mother, grandmother and sister and then later committed suicide. Both of them, Farhan and Tanvir Towhid, suffered from depression. Farhan was 19 years and Tanvir 21 years.

After the act Farhan posted a 6 page letter on Instagram “Hey everyone. I killed myself and my family.”  In his letter Farhan talked about many things: depression since the 9th grade, cutting himself, being helped by his Dad and receiving medical help, unable to be happy, the ease of getting the guns, suicide pact with his brother, killing family members out of love as they wouldn't be able to bear the loss of the two brothers.

The police officer who reached the home after someone saw the Instagram posting, described it as a "tragedy beyond description". He also said that it appeared Farhan "wanted to be heard".

 


WANTING TO BE HEARD

Too often mental health problems are shuttered out in South Asian families, not acknowledged and treated. The mentally disturbed person is expected to cope. 

The health issue is real. The pain is real. The outcome can be very sad if the condition is not alleviated and treated adequately. Accepting mental health at par with physical health is critical, as Farhan says in his 'farewell' letter "I don't get why mental illnesses are treated so differently from physical ailments."

LIVING BETWEEN TWO CULTURES

Young adults, who study and work by Western norms but at the same time observe traditional cultural  values, can suffer a lot of conflict and stress. Discrimination and racist slurs can add to this immeasurably.  While therapists, helplines, and school counseling centers are available, and visible, South Asian young adults are often influenced by the opinion of their parents on mental illness.

CULTURALLY SENSITIVE THERAPY

Therapists also need to be attuned to cultural mores and traditions to give effective therapy - the best way out is possibly finding a practitioner from one's own community. An online directory South Asian Therapists is attempting to fill this requirement.

Online communities like Dil to Dil  and Brown Girl Therapy are trying to break the stigma of mental illness and help sufferers find a voice, and maybe a solution. Both communities are active on Instagram.

If you or someone you know needs help, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-TALK (8255). You can also text a crisis counselor by messaging the Crisis Text Line at 741741

 

Further reading

https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2021/04/06/texas-family-murder-suicide/

https://www.oxygen.com/crime-news/farhan-and-tanvir-towhid-kill-4-family-members-in-murder-suicide

https://americankahani.com/community/bangladeshi-american-brothers-kill-family-of-four-in-murder-suicide-in-suburban-dallas-home/

https://scroll.in/global/971366/the-silent-mental-health-crisis-among-south-asian-immigrants-in-the-us-is-crying-to-be-addressed

https://diltodil.org/
http://joinsapha.org/community-guide/mental-health-facts/

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