Domestic violence is an ongoing pattern of abusive behaviors that may include one or more of the following:
Physical abuse: pushing, kicking, slapping, hitting.
Emotional abuse: put downs, mind games, humiliation, name-calling and insults in public and/or in private.
Coercion or threats: threatening to hurt or take away children, or using citizenship or residency privileges against you.
Sexual violence: forcing an unwilling partner or spouse to have sex.
Economic abuse: denying access to family bank account or employment.
Isolation: denying free access to family, friends, education.
If you, or anyone you know, is experiencing such a relationship, talk to us for advice. Often you can sense something is really wrong but can’t put a name to it.
Abuse is not ‘normal’
It is not ‘normal’ to encounter abuse in a relationship. Abusers typically seek control over the other individual through various types of violence. After a violent incident they may beg for pardon, blaming others including the victim, only to perpetrate violence again.
Continuously on the receiving end, most abused persons suffer loss of confidence and self esteem. Living in fear, they lose the ability to take decisions.
Violence destroys families and hurts children beyond belief.
Do whatever you can to put a stop to it.
There is no demographic ‘profile’ of an abuser
Abusers can be from any economic, educational or cultural background. Could be young, old, husband, wife, relative, mother-in-law, immigrant, native American. The single defining feature is the perpetration of different kinds of violence to gain control over the other.