The #Me Too outcry this month is being termed a ‘tipping point’ and ‘watershed moment’ as the campaign keeps up its momentum, reaching different levels and nuances, working its way into the psyche of law givers, policy makers, health and care givers, people who own and run businesses and institutions - and impacting men and women across the world.
And by chance, the timing has locked in with nationwide programs for October, the Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
The data that has emerged this month is undeniable: it is evident that MeToo is not a rant or a feminist movement - but an expression of pain.
Expressing pain is part of the healing
Most women who’ve been abused have a feeling of humiliation, even shame, and find it difficult to talk about their painful experiences. Me Too has become a route to break free and find solace in numbers. Activist and social worker Tarana Burke who conceptualized and activated Me Too more than a decade ago, explains the healing that takes place with the declaration, whether you put a face to it or go incognito.
“On one side, it's a bold declarative statement that 'I'm not ashamed' and 'I'm not alone.' On the other side, it's a statement from survivor to survivor that says 'I see you, I hear you, I understand you and I'm here for you or I get it…When you experience trauma and meet other people that have a similar experience, and you show empathy for each other, it creates a bond."**
Me Too works because “Sometimes you don’t want to have a whole conversation…saying me too can be a starter or the whole conversation. You don’t have to say much more than that.”
Every Me Too is backed with courage, and it helps you become stronger, because shame is debilitating.
For survivors talking can be a lifeline
‘You are not alone’ is the premise for our work with survivors of domestic violence. To echo Tarana Burke “we hear you, understand you and are here for you”. We entreat survivors to confide with people they can trust, to share their pain, shed feelings of shame and humiliation - and emerge stronger and more self-reliant than ever.
“I see you, I hear you, I understand you and I'm here for you”
Tarana Burke on MTV News
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